1Samuel 1
The language of “the Lord had closed her womb” makes it sound like this is a judgment against Hannah, or that God wanted this to happen to her or caused her infertility. I cannot say for sure that this is not true… it is very possible that God does allow this to happen to Hannah so that he can be glorified later in the birth of Samuel. In Hannah’s culture and society people believed that infertility was God’s judgment against someone, so Hannah probably dealt with both the grief of not having a child and the social stigma against childless women. What I notice when I read this is that nothing is said about why Hannah is childless—there is no mention of judgment or that she has done something wrong, and I think this is very important to note. God does not allow this to happen to Hannah because he is angry with her or does not love her—it just happens.1 There was a certain man of Ramathaim-zophim of the hill country of Ephraim whose name was Elkanah the son of Jeroham, son of Elihu, son of Tohu, son of Zuph, an Ephrathite. 2 He had two wives. The name of the one was Hannah, and the name of the other, Peninnah. And Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children.3 Now this man used to go up year by year from his city to worship and to sacrifice to the Lord of hosts at Shiloh, where the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, were priests of the Lord. 4 On the day when Elkanah sacrificed, he would give portions to Peninnah his wife and to all her sons and daughters. 5 But to Hannah he gave a double portion, because he loved her, though the Lord had closed her womb.[a] 6 And her rival used to provoke her grievously to irritate her, because the Lord had closed her womb. 7 So it went on year by year. As often as she went up to the house of the Lord, she used to provoke her. Therefore Hannah wept and would not eat.
I know in my own journey I find it easy to wonder why God has not blessed me with a baby yet. I see other people who are having kids, and some of them are going to be wonderful parents while some are clearly in less than ideal circumstances. It makes me (and every other woman that I know who struggles with TTC) ask the question “Why not me?” The truth is that the answer to this question is probably as simple as Just because—we live in a fallen, imperfect world, and bad things happen. Just because bad things happen does not mean that God does not love us.
This is undoubtedly a very insensitive remark by Hannah’s husband. Clearly he does not understand the ache in her heart. After all, he has children by Peninnah, his other wife. But we see from verse 5 that he does love Hannah, and I’ll bet that Hannah loves him back.
8 And Elkanah, her husband, said to her, “Hannah, why do you weep? And why do you not eat? And why is your heart sad? Am I not more to you than ten sons?”
Does anyone else ever feel guilty for wanting a baby so badly? I know that sometimes I remember the days before I was dating my husband. I had a crush on him for a solid eight months before he knew he liked me back, and I remember praying to God prayers along the lines of “God, if you give me J, I promise I’ll be happy for the rest of my life and never ask for anything else again. I love him so much, and I don’t know if I can live without him!” Now maybe I’m the only one who prayed this kind of prayer, but when I find myself so distraught and sad because I do not have a baby, I am always plagued by this strand of guilt, because God did give me the most incredible man, and I love him so dearly. I feel like I should never want anything again. But I do. I want a baby. This passage comforts me because I see that Hannah had a man who loved her, and she still desired more. And God did not scorn her for this. I know that the desire for children is one that God has given me.
9 After they had eaten and drunk in Shiloh, Hannah rose. Now Eli the priest was sitting on the seat beside the doorpost of the temple of the Lord. 10 She was deeply distressed and prayed to the Lord and wept bitterly. 11 And she vowed a vow and said, “O Lord of hosts, if you will indeed look on the affliction of your servant and remember me and not forget your servant, but will give to your servant a son, then I will give him to the Lord all the days of his life, and no razor shall touch his head.”Here I do not really know what to say. This kind of gets into another territory regarding bargaining with God. Is that okay to do? I have no idea. It seems to work well for Hannah here, and indeed it works for others in the bible at various times, but I always feel weird about it. If anyone has any thoughts about this, I would love to hear them!
12 As she continued praying before the Lord, Eli observed her mouth. 13 Hannah was speaking in her heart; only her lips moved, and her voice was not heard. Therefore Eli took her to be a drunken woman. 14 And Eli said to her, “How long will you go on being drunk? Put your wine away from you.” 15 But Hannah answered, “No, my lord, I am a woman troubled in spirit. I have drunk neither wine nor strong drink, but I have been pouring out my soul before the Lord. 16 Do not regard your servant as a worthless woman, for all along I have been speaking out of my great anxiety and vexation.”Hannah is so intense in her praying and pleading with God that Eli the priest thinks she is drunk! She responds that no, she is “a woman troubled in spirit… pouring out my soul before the Lord… out of my great anxiety and grief.”
I know I have been there. It is horrible. Sometimes afterwards I feel some peace and reassurance, but many times I do not. I do know, though, that God hears my prayers. I do not know that he will give me what I desire, but I know that he loves me. We are not guaranteed happiness in life. Being a Christian does not mean that God will give you all good things, or that your life here on earth will be wonderful. What it means is that you know how much Christ loves you, and you know that you have a future of life and joy with him in eternity. That is the wonderful joy and promise of the resurrection. Nothing about happiness on earth is guaranteed. But hey—if it weren’t for Christ, we would all be doomed to an eternity of torment, suffering and separation from God in Hell. I know that’s not a popular thing to say, but it is true. Something to remember is that God does love you. He has already demonstrated this by sending his Son. He may or may not give me a baby. But I know that if he loves me so much as to send is only son to die for me, then I am sure he cares about my pain, and I know that he hates to see his children suffer. So even if you feel that God is not listening or does not care, pour out your heart to him as Hannah did. Because he is listening, and he does care.
17 Then Eli answered, “Go in peace, and the God of Israel grant your petition that you have made to him.” 18 And she said, “Let your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then the woman went her way and ate, and her face was no longer sad.After her prayer, Hannah’s “face was no longer sad.” Even though she did not know for sure how or when God would answer her petition, she had peace. Knowing that God hears my prayer and cares about me gives me peace, even though I still do not know when or if I will have a baby. Praying does help, and it does calm me down eventually.
19 They rose early in the morning and worshiped before the Lord; then they went back to their house at Ramah. And Elkanah knew Hannah his wife, and the Lord remembered her. 20 And in due time Hannah conceived and bore a son, and she called his name Samuel, for she said, “I have asked for him from the Lord.”This is the happy ending that I know all TTC couples are waiting for! God granted Hannah’s request and she had a baby! I pray that this will happen for me as well, and for the other women I know who pray a similar prayer. Verse 20 says “in due time” Hannah conceived. It was not immediately, and it was not when she thought it was time. It was in God’s timing. I know that I hate not knowing, and I hate not having control. But at the same time, in those moments when I have peace and joy, it is because I recognize that if this, the strongest desire of my heart, is granted, it will be in God’s due time, and not in mine. And on my good days when I am most reasonable, I know that this will be much better than any timing I could come up with, and it will all work to glorify God in the end.
This was well-reasoned and studied. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to say that I'm not sure if Hannah is bargaining with God or not. She may be, or she may be merely promising Him that if she were to have a child, she would give him to God. This may have been something she would have done anyway, even if she hadn't had trouble TTC. The Bible doesn't tell us anything from her past.
Thanks for the thought about the "bargaining with God" thing. After looking at it again, I think you may be right- Hannah could just be making a promise. I guess I was thinking of other Old Testament cases where people bargained with God, like Abraham bargaining for the salvation of Sodom and Gomorrah. That was a pretty clear case of bargaining! But I guess this is less clear. I'm not saying for sure that it is wrong to bargain with God, but I do feel weird about it. I like your perspective on this. Thanks for commenting! :)
DeleteChrista, there is no pain like the pain of longing for a baby and not having one in your arms. That is something we share together - if not even a little piece of it. Our Timothy is named from Hannah's story and her son, Samuel. Timothy means "Crown of Glory" and Samuel means "Heard or asked of God" which was very fitting!
ReplyDeleteI also struggled with guilt. I thought we much be doing such a bad job with Jonathan that the Lord decided we didn't need anymore. Then, I felt guilty complaining about secondary infertility when others were struggling with primary infertility; at least we had one so what were we complaining about?? Nevertheless, a heart longing for a baby is a painful thing when your arms are empty.
You have my prayers and my love, my daughter-in-love!
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Thank you for your kind words and for sharing a piece of your story with me. It means a lot. I find this story about Hannah very comforting and encouraging, and it definitely helped with the feelings of guilt.
DeleteThank you for the prayers as well. <3